For many men exploring Tantra and sexual energy mastery, the idea of semen retention is often presented as the ultimate path to transformation. I used to believe this myself that holding onto my sexual energy was the key to mastery. But over time, I realised that strict retention never really worked for me as a long-term strategy.
Even the word retention doesn’t sit right with me. It implies holding, forcing, and pressure a kind of tension that contradicts the natural flow of life-force energy. True mastery isn’t about rigid control; it’d about awareness, balance, and integration.
Beyond Retention: A Natural Shift
Now, I rarely feel any compulsion to release during self-pleasure. But the key is this: I’m not forcing myself to hold back either. Interestingly, many of the men I work with experience the same thing their urge for frequent release or compulsive habits naturally fades, without needing strict rules or self-denial.
This aligns with what Napoleon Hill described in Think and Grow Rich as the emotion of sex. He devoted an entire chapter to the Mystery of Sex Transmutation, explaining how sexual energy, when consciously harnessed, fuels creativity, success, and deeper fulfillment.
When we recognize sexual energy as an emotion, we start to see why suppressing it can be just as unhealthy as overindulging in it unconsciously.
A Different Path: Awareness Over Suppression
Instead of treating sexual energy as something to be either hoarded or drained, the path I teach is about learning to work with it consciously to feel it fully, allow it to move through the body, and direct it into deeper self-connection, creativity, and presence.
The beautiful thing? Change doesn’t need to be forced. When we develop awareness, old compulsions fall away naturally. What remains is a deeper, more embodied relationship with our own energy one that feels expansive, nourishing, and alive.
Curious to explore this deeper?
This is the kind of shift we work with in my Sexual Energy Mastery for Men program & 1-1 work. If you’re ready to move beyond strict rules and into a more natural, powerful relationship with your sexual energy, I invite you to reach out. Let’s explore what’s possible.
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